(my transparency for YOUR freedom...)
Let’s be honest, those are two words we don’t like to hear nor do we like to do them. Many times we find ourselves in battles we put ourselves in because we don’t adhere to our first instincts to not enter in the fight. Anyhow...
I found myself in a tug-of-war one day because I thought what I had and what I was doing was right, later realizing I needed to let go of the rope. I thought surely the guy I am entertaining (not with formally) was mine. Thinking we were together...smh!!! How crazy is that? You know, the one who is your best guy friend who knows all about you, and in your eyes is the perfect guy for you. The only problem is, you all have been friends for quite some time and he hasn't even given you the idea of making you anything more than that. What’s even crazier is you have other guy friends, and have been on dates, and you know he does the same. Yet and still you choose to hold on to the rope, thinking the game would change. Surely, something will happen because there is always a winner. However, you wake up one day and realize you have to let go because it is the only way you will win.
Yes, I am not ashamed, I am admitting this lie that I kept telling myself because MANY women do it, and truth is you have got to set yourself free. This is my transparency for your FREEDOM. I was there, and I was there more than once. I had to be honest with myself; I had to tell my heart the truth.
Letting go requires us to be true to the fact that what we have is no longer of use to us. That what we have is no longer helpful to us and if we continue to hold onto it, it will hinder us from forward movement. Holding onto something you don’t need or no longer need becomes dead weight. Do you realize the space you are occupying? THE ONE God has for you can’t find you because you’re busy hanging out with so and so. Perhaps, THE ONE did see you, but you looked taken and preoccupied. DANGER!
Carrying anything dead will cause damage, and that’s the very thing God will have to heal you from when you finally decide to let go. Yes, there is pain in letting go what you think is yours, and leaving behind the very thing you think you need.
Truth is, it is not comfortable, and in fact it is downright painful to say the least. It hurts to let go, but it is necessary for healing and growth. The very thing we think we have to hold onto; God comes in and loosens our grip. Either He snatches it away or has to pry/chip it away little by little. It hurts. It’s upsetting. It’s frustrating. It’s ugly. It doesn't feel good. It’s embarrassing…but it has to be done and you have got to trust Him.
Make the move first and let go with dignity. It will be a freeing experience for you and a healing experience at the same time. Letting go doesn't mean your heart was never involved, it just means it needed to be moved back into its proper place. In the hands of God is where your heart belongs until He sees fit that He shares it with the one He has for you. For the one(s) you had to leave, learn to love them from a distance. Learn to pray for them that Gods will is done in their life.
It is freeing knowing that what you thought was BEST, God has BETTER! (mind blowing!!!) Believe me when I tell you, as soon as you let go of what you think you have to hold onto, if it is His will, GOD Himself will send you something/someone better!!! Trust and Believe.
PSA: PLEASE KNOW THAT IF YOU ARE IN THIS SITUATION WITH A MARRIED/TAKEN MAN, SNAP OUT OF IT! THAT MAN ISN'T YOURS and NEVER WILL BE!!! I've encountered one too many women who put themselves in these situations and ladies it is your responsibility to stop that game. If you already are questioning on what to do, that means it is time to make a move! Respect yourself enough to walk away. Please know that you are VALUABLE and YOUR WORTH is greater than being someone's second choice or option. There is a MAN who will LOVE you and ONLY you and if it is GOD's plan, He will take care of that once you let go of what's NOT yours. #YesISaidIT #WhoMad?
End the chapter. Finish the book. Turn the page. Let go. Release yourself and them. Let go.